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Journey 242: Just as how many times you see them as they are?

When we walk past our life’s journeys and our life’s stations, we meet different kind of people who are in different situations, sometimes, very far and different from where we are and what we had been blessed but how do you see them? We, unfortunately bash at the failures of others, we gossip at how others failed at life and we exchanged little petty talks about how they become miserable because they are fat, they are short, they are stout, they have hug beer bellies, they have crooked teeth, they have been blind, they are pregnant at a young age, they are walking differently than us. We, at our very weakness, make fun at others and at their own expense. We laugh at our heart’s delight by even mocking them worse, mimicking them at their own limitations and failures.

I had observed that even by walking through a street, a transvestite get jeered on and insulted than a lady. I also observed that even a pregnant teenage girl is looked down and gossiped than any girl her age. I also observed that a little boy at school gets bullied but the teachers are unmindful, even does not care. I also observed that sometimes, when men talk together, the talks usually end up about the girl they have made out last night and counting. I also observed that even in interviews, people who have been differently-able are treated less fairly than most applicants. I also observed that even those whose families were ruined that we talk about them and their conditions behind their backs. These, among others, have really what made us inhuman, not human for after all, being humane is not about judging others, it is not about talking about someone’s failures and are happy about it. Being humane is about understanding mutually, interceding by also embracing them in their journeys, helping by also living the best example and being humane does not pass judgment on someone else’ folly. We never do pass judgment for the bar we used on them will also be used in us when we are judged.

Just as when we wanted a better world in us, let us practice mutual understanding, compassion and doing what is the right thing to do. How many times do you see a stranger as they are? How many old people you talked each day? How many drivers of public vehicles you talked to and learning that they worked harder to feed their families back home? How many school children you get to talk to know about their excitement of schooling? How many young applicants you talked to cheer up on their way to their interview? How many loved ones you touched by calling them reassuring them that they are better today than yesterday in the midst of a stressful day? How many people have you cared in the hospital? How many young teens you have listened to in their effort to overcome their past? How many have you lent your time just to listen and care?

Our own humanity speaks of what we truly are and how we can make this world a better place. We may thing we are way better than anyone but surely, our humanity can never exists on its own utopian world but rather, it has to be lived in the world of others. We can never exist on our own by disregarding others or ignoring them worse, laughing at them at their failures. Remember, we forget our own humanity when we make fun at others because it is not right to take pleasures at someone’s pain.

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Journey 241: Was it only Yesterday?

When we are in love, we care deeply about how we feel and those whom our heart beats for every minute and to those whose lives we are evolving. But when love, as we felt it, are like roses blooming and beaming through an open window, is lovely and yes, it is refreshingly interesting to see and feel. It gave us the reassurance that even if the days are gloomy, our love as we shared it, will be just as refreshing and just plainly, an eye-candy to most who sees us.

Just when we love seriously too, that there are those that hamper our love comes rushing in. Whether we can accept it or not, there are those whose purpose in life is to ruin relationships and conquer the love you built. They just easily stoop at the window and invariably pick up those lovely flowers that represented every bloom, strength, optimism and every purpose why such relationships exist. There are however, people, whose purpose in life is to wreak lives and ruin relationships of which many lovers have befall.

Crestfallen, we are often left out and ruined. We are left to move on alone and worse, we are left over someone not of our own decision and doing, unfortunately, just by someone. Was it only yesterday then that you asks about how you both felt? Was it only yesterday that we enjoyed the simplicity of life and living? Was it only yesterday that we shared a hearty laugh and a will to survive? Was it only yesterday that we shared I LOVE YOU’s? Was it only yesterday that we surrendered all our love, our faith, our loyalty, our trust, our hope? Was it only yesterday that we shared in the victory and downfall of every dream we made? Was it only yesterday that we cared deeply about us and the future we carved in? Was it only yesterday that we courted and build on? We kept asking these to remind us, not of our inability to love honestly but to revalidate our capacity to move on.

In it though, it is unfortunate that one of us go on without the other, in the company of those who stole the show, in the company of those who ruined us and those in the arms of strangers who wreaked us. Then how could moving on be not as painful? It will always be painful but the reassurance will always be that in the hollowness we felt, we find peace and respect. That in the painful journey we will take alone, we find solace in the company of those who plant love and nurture it. That in the painful transition, we are deeply reassured of our own self-worth above what they have seen through us and those whom they refused to see us through. After all, roses are lovelies when they bloom and they bloom much more than we even think they have been doomed.

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Journey 240: Can Love outlive the LIES?

There are, as they say, many lilies in the pond and underneath are life evolving, so does any relationships we build on. One day, we fell in love, the other day, we have fallen out of it. One day, we shared love, the next day, we shared lies. One day we made love, the next day, we just deftly fell out of love. Relationships are built on trusts, not trysts so therefore, when lies and innuendoes of lies cometh, then the strongest barrier is the TRUTH. How can love outlive the lies? A figment in one’s mind, though considerably disheartening when known but unthreatening when hidden becomes the lingering conscience. The guiding principles for love to thrive is to be utterly honest with each other, give time to each one another and outdo each one in giving honor, not lies. The greatness of love is felt when we are trustworthy and also, thinks of the person we love with trust, confidence and less on anxiety, mistrust and discomfort.

Men and women became prey to the folly of love when they look beyond what their eyes can see at the present moment. When you have someone in heart and whose heart belongs to you, then focus on them. Do never stray from your focus on them for when you do, you see farther away that falling into it means hiding something you both feel betrayed. Loving is yes, risktaking but it does not involve falling not once but twice, thrice or more than that at one time. When one does, it does not liberate the love but hinders it. And as we wantonly and brazenly ascribe, no one man can go fishing in the betwixt two seas. No one man can scoop a lily mightily except the ones he already has been caring for through.

Can love then outlive the lies? Yes, love can but trust will not. Love is always the guidepost for someone to thread whose paths were narrower and dimmer each day. Love is best felt when you are deeply committed, strongly committed and utterly honestly committed to the one you love. No amount of tryst or fake feelings of love can supplant truest love. If one feels unhappiness then seek it through. If one feels burdened, then lighten down. If one feels loving, then love the most but not to more. Remember, when lies thrive, love dies.

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