Journey 241: Was it only Yesterday?

When we are in love, we care deeply about how we feel and those whom our heart beats for every minute and to those whose lives we are evolving. But when love, as we felt it, are like roses blooming and beaming through an open window, is lovely and yes, it is refreshingly interesting to see and feel. It gave us the reassurance that even if the days are gloomy, our love as we shared it, will be just as refreshing and just plainly, an eye-candy to most who sees us.

Just when we love seriously too, that there are those that hamper our love comes rushing in. Whether we can accept it or not, there are those whose purpose in life is to ruin relationships and conquer the love you built. They just easily stoop at the window and invariably pick up those lovely flowers that represented every bloom, strength, optimism and every purpose why such relationships exist. There are however, people, whose purpose in life is to wreak lives and ruin relationships of which many lovers have befall.

Crestfallen, we are often left out and ruined. We are left to move on alone and worse, we are left over someone not of our own decision and doing, unfortunately, just by someone. Was it only yesterday then that you asks about how you both felt? Was it only yesterday that we enjoyed the simplicity of life and living? Was it only yesterday that we shared a hearty laugh and a will to survive? Was it only yesterday that we shared I LOVE YOU’s? Was it only yesterday that we surrendered all our love, our faith, our loyalty, our trust, our hope? Was it only yesterday that we shared in the victory and downfall of every dream we made? Was it only yesterday that we cared deeply about us and the future we carved in? Was it only yesterday that we courted and build on? We kept asking these to remind us, not of our inability to love honestly but to revalidate our capacity to move on.

In it though, it is unfortunate that one of us go on without the other, in the company of those who stole the show, in the company of those who ruined us and those in the arms of strangers who wreaked us. Then how could moving on be not as painful? It will always be painful but the reassurance will always be that in the hollowness we felt, we find peace and respect. That in the painful journey we will take alone, we find solace in the company of those who plant love and nurture it. That in the painful transition, we are deeply reassured of our own self-worth above what they have seen through us and those whom they refused to see us through. After all, roses are lovelies when they bloom and they bloom much more than we even think they have been doomed.

Journey 182: By the wheel of love I lead you

Certainly, as we go into serious and committal relationships whether that be at the on-set from courtships to marriage, one must understand the role of each one in such union. Our relationship is strengthened by the manner we see how the wheel of love takes its turn each day, each cogs making its rightful turn each time we learn of each other. The road is further ahead and the clouds are downcasts however, the power of love makes each day a brighter sunny day in spite its gloomy state.

The wheel of love is turn every time we accept how the limitations of such union entail for both parties. It is turned each time one understands and give way. It is turned each time one fully accepts the intricacies of each one and by so doing, accepting our own personal limitations through our behaviour, attitudes, manners and even our choices and perspectives of life. One must also understand that for it to work well, the two must take turns turning the wheel further on and it is called give and take attitude. When confronted with critical decisions, both couple must consult each other, respect how they see their union go and support each other.

Sadly too, in so many relationships and even in marriage, the couples just ignore that there is what we call the wheel of love and understanding. Instead, we fight for who is the highest voice to be heard, whose idea is the brightest and we even compete for who is the one driving the relationship. In sum, at the end of the day, one must never infer who the boss in such union is, because no one is since the two becomes one already. What the other person thinks must also be the one the other accepts and what the other accepts must also be the other respects. By that, it will not create too much complications and confusions. By it, self-respect and acceptance is what also makes the wheel turn faster and perhaps, makes the couple count the minutes, the days, the months, and the years with much to look forward to than to what stuck them in the past.

Couples, young and old must always refer to the wheel of love in leading through the dusty road to a happy and blessed union. It is of course, by the wheel of love that I lead you.

Journey 180: When the hearts grow asunder

This is a topic most people will be able to relate to because we all pass through this. This is not about me or her or anyone but to all of us who have experienced all the heartaches in the world of loving and living. Something I have learn listening the outpourings of a dear friend. May this thought I have on this topic helps those who had also been in her shoes.

A day after Valentine’s day is a day of reckoning. Some have feel the essence of love and the passion of being loved but to others, this is another journey that will either ends up being together forever or be separated forever. There are things and events in our lives that defines our ability to love and be loved but more so, there are moments one can cherished forever however, only in their thoughts.

As I have learned, freedom is what you lost when you fall in love but once freedom is regained, then love is ergo, lost. It is in this context that in loving, the two becomes one, so individual “independence” come secondary to the one you both shared. It is something one must understand for any relationship to work. When you demand your freedom and independence back, then you unwittingly untangle yourself from the bond that connects you together.

Something of a tip for a relationship to work out is to not hide anything. One must never hide anything or something from the one he or she loves. When that moments comes, then again, love gets affected too. It is because we believed that when the two becomes one, you see the world together, in the same vantage point, in the same scale. If one starts hiding, then he or she unwittingly sees the world in a different perspective and points of view, very much opposed to what you see together.

When the heart grows asunder, freedom and secrecy comes to the fore. Just as when you think this happens to you, then learn to move on and on. Just be very grateful you had time together, for how long are the years and months and days and hours as well as minutes, when you spend it only to end in tears and fears, then one must always remember that a brighter and better future awaits when again, your hearts grow fonder.